When you're with a girl, at the very beginning you need to not think about sex. It takes slow steps to explore what girl wants. She wants sex, that's for sure, but does not want to get it right away, because that would mean that it is easy and almost always available.
I am as I write this blog, and all the experience, I was without words for the woman-girl. Various experiments, I came to some interesting conclusions.
In particular you can say about my current relationship.